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		<title>Myth and Innuendo In the Greg Kelly Investigation</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Feb 2012 05:32:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Roger Canaff</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>She waited three months to report.</p>
<p>She has a boyfriend who was angered by the situation.</p>
<p>Sex-themed text messages may have been exchanged before the night in question, and ones suggesting another meeting may have been sent after.</p>
<p>She has a Facebook page upon which she posted “nothing out of the ordinary” during the month where the alleged [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>She waited three months to report.</p>
<p>She has a boyfriend who was angered by the situation.</p>
<p>Sex-themed text messages may have been exchanged before the night in question, and ones suggesting another meeting may have been sent after.</p>
<p>She has a Facebook page upon which she posted “<a href="http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/greg-kelly-rape-accuser-drank-east-side-bar-draped-bras-article-1.1013621">nothing out of the ordinary</a>” during the month where the alleged crime occurred.</p>
<p>She joined the man she’s accusing at a bar that <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2093404/Greg-Kelly-TV-anchor-accusers-marathon-48-hours-explicit-texts-led-illicit-meeting-bar-covered-BRAS-alleged-rape.html">hangs</a> women’s underwear from the ceiling.</p>
<p>Dear God, why is anyone even investigating this? Why is Martha Bashford, the highly capable sex-crimes chief at the Manhattan District Attorney’s Office, wasting time to determine what happened between this complainant and Greg Kelly?</p>
<p>Hopefully because Bashford isn’t being swayed by “<a href="http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/01/29/woman-who-accuses-nypd-boss-son-greg-kelly-rape-exchanged-17-texts-following/">law enforcement sources</a>,” quoted widely in the media this week and assigning authoritative finality to factors like the ones above. DA Vance has firmly stated he <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/28/greg-kelly-rape-new-york-police-ray-kelly_n_1238159.html">doesn’t know</a> the source of the leaks and does not condone them. He has good reason beyond their basic irresponsibility.  They reflect a stunning ignorance regarding the reality of sexual violence.</p>
<p>I have no idea if Greg Kelly is guilty of anything; it’s been a week since a complaint was made and there are far more questions than answers. Hence the investigatory process and venerable presumption of innocence. Kelly has been charged with no crime. He deserves to be treated respectfully and without smearing or assumption.  But to assert that the case against him is false because of the factors being touted is dangerous nonsense.</p>
<p>-Delayed reporting is hardly abnormal or indicative of a false report, despite the fantasies of apparent &#8220;<a href="http://www.nypost.com/p/news/local/manhattan/kelly_kiss_tell_QXfGrayDjKC870hTce99RM">veteran investigators</a>.&#8221; Delaying is extremely common, if anything the <a href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;rct=j&amp;q=suzanne%20parker%20lindsay%20study%20rape&amp;source=web&amp;cd=1&amp;ved=0CCYQFjAA&amp;url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mysati.com%2FDownloads%2FHandout_DSA.doc&amp;ei=VcAoT6fDDqK62gX2x5jpAg&amp;usg=AFQjCNErz2MHgaogiidjQX7h8uME7kxI-g">norm</a> rather than the exception in acquaintance cases. Survivors delay reporting for dozens of valid reasons, most exacerbated by the circumstances seen here (a celebrity accused, a media frenzy, microscopic scrutiny of the victim, etc).</p>
<p>-The idea that women regularly, falsely report being raped in order to cover regretful behavior or the betrayal of another relationship is <a href="http://www.ndaa.org/pdf/the_voice_vol_3_no_1_2009.pdf">vacuous</a>. Has it happened?  Surely. Is it remotely common?  Hardly.  Reporting rape falsely and enduring what follows is anything but a typical impulse, let alone a popular choice when confronted by an angry boyfriend who wants to know why you’re pregnant.</p>
<p>- Sexually charged texts from a woman to a man prior to an encounter says absolutely zero about whether that man is capable of raping her either by force or as a result of physical helplessness. It also says zero about her inclination or ability to tell the truth about an event she recalls as a crime. Rather, they demonize her as someone less deserving of legal vindication no matter what happened.  Texting afterward might be more problematic, but it depends on the context, what was said, and when. If the texts sought clarification of what happened (which would make sense in a case alleging severe intoxication and incapacity to consent), they are hardly smoking guns. What of texts suggesting another meeting? Again, it depends- when were they made in context to when she realized fully what had happened? An evolving sense of what occurred is also not uncommon in cases where incapacity through intoxicants is suspected.</p>
<p>Comparisons are already being made between this situation and the cases of meteorologist Heidi Jones (who fabricated a rape complaint originating in Central Park), Kobe Bryant, and Duke Lacrosse.  Never mind that Jones accused no one by name (very common in false complaints), Bryant’s legal team savagely wore down the complainant until she gave up (yet he later apologized), and the complainant in Duke Lacrosse was so severely mentally ill that authorities suspected she probably believed her own lies.</p>
<p>The issues so far in this nascent case present challenges for the prosecution; that is undisputed. Kelly may be innocent of anything criminal, a fact which may genuinely co-exist with the complainant’s belief that she was violated.</p>
<p>But to conflate these challenges with the recklessness and moral bankruptcy that must accompany falsely accusing a man of rape- at this point and on these factors- is dangerously unfair and ignorant.  The &#8220;sources” publicly voicing skepticism should be kept far away from the investigation. Commentators, particularly <a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/01/30/the-real-victims-in-rape-cases-like-greg-kelly-s.html">former sex crimes prosecutors</a> who should know better, are doing little good by furthering myths they either 1) never understood as such, or 2) allowed to intimidate them into inaction. If these things occurred when they were on the job, it was the victims who paid the price.</p>
<p>If the complainant has falsely accused Kelly, then she is already getting what she deserves. If her complaint is valid or at least sincere, she is getting far, far worse. My prayer is that NYDA gets it right, and for the right reasons.</p>
<p style='text-align:left'>&copy; 2012, <a href='http://rogercanaff.com/site'>Roger Canaff</a>. All rights reserved. </p>
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		<title>Vulnerabilty, Danger, and Blame</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jan 2012 01:51:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Roger Canaff</dc:creator>
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<p>“There is no vulnerability without danger.”  Veronique Nicole Valliere, Psy.D.</p>
<p>It’s a simple and brilliant truth, introduced to me at a sex assault prosecution training in 2009. The doc was discussing how we blame women (and men) who are sexually assaulted, particularly when their choices leading up to the attack make them, in most minds, “more [...]]]></description>
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<p><em>“There is no vulnerability without danger.”  Veronique Nicole Valliere, Psy.D.</em></p>
<p>It’s a simple and brilliant truth, introduced to me at a sex assault prosecution training in 2009. The doc was discussing how we blame women (and men) who are sexually assaulted, particularly when their choices leading up to the attack make them, in most minds, “more vulnerable.” Like when they drink too much, or when they go home with a man they don’t know well. And so on.</p>
<p>When I heard it, I nodded sagely. Sure, I believed in what I called “rape prevention,” and felt that everyone needed to take some responsibility for their own personal safety. But that’s all. I wasn’t anywhere near victim blaming. Because I was too smart for that. Too enlightened. Too smugly ensconced as one of the more influential sex assault prosecution experts nationwide. So naturally, I understood her perfectly.</p>
<p>Except that I didn’t. Because I <em>was</em> victim blaming, even though I told myself I wasn’t. And in buying into the kind of “rape prevention” I believed in, I was a part of the problem. Many of us, most with the best of intentions, still are.</p>
<p>The ad above from the Pennsylvania Liquor Control Board (now <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2011/12/liquor-control-board-pulls-shocking-date-rape-ad/">pulled</a>) sparked a debate in feminist circles. The ad itself wasn’t the issue; most agreed it was offensive. Visually it sexualized violence, right down to the blue underwear around the seductively placed ankles matching the tile on the floor. That’s not a representation of the aftermath of a felony. It’s wanna-be pornography. And of course, it callously blamed both the curled up, naughty-girl and her irresponsible friends for not preventing the rape she apparently endured. No mention of the rapist.</p>
<p>But while the attempt was botched, the underlying message begged a question: Shouldn&#8217;t we warn girls and women about the dangers of losing control, and thus “becoming vulnerable?” Isn’t it simply a dangerous world, like it or not? Of course it is and of course we should, went the <a href="http://loop21.com/life/are-feminists-hurting-women-opposing-controversial-campaign-0">argument</a>. It was a bold one apparently, expectant of a backlash from uber-feminist PC police who would label it victim blaming even though the goal was simply to “reduce vulnerability.”  When the backlash <a href="http://feministing.com/2011/12/07/pa-liquor-control-board-to-teens-rape-is-your-fault-and-your-friends-fault/">came</a>, I initially sided against it. I had seen a career&#8217;s worth of victimization- how could I not encourage safe behavior myself, in the name of reducing vulnerability? Because vulnerability invites danger.  Right?</p>
<p>Wrong.</p>
<p>Go back to the statement at the top of the page. Vulnerability does not exist unless danger is present. Choices, however reckless they appear, do not create danger anymore than liquor creates rape in a man who is not a rapist. Danger exists because of the choices dangerous people- rapists, in this case- make. From this reality, two others flow: First, encouraging young people (the <a href="http://www.911rape.org/facts-quotes/statistics">most</a> at-risk population, male or female) to avoid victimization through more responsible behavior will not prevent a single rape, as author <a href="http://www.jaclynfriedman.com/">Jaclyn Friedman</a> points out in her <a href="http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2011/12/16/girl-on-girl-victim-blaming-action-or-the-most-terrible-time-of-the-year/">piece</a> on the subject. Rape is never an accident, and it’s almost always a planned attack. The rapist who cannot target the &#8220;better-behaved&#8221; woman will find one who isn’t. So there won&#8217;t be less rape, just rape of perhaps different people. Of course, the predictable rejoinder is “well my daughter won’t be the targeted person, then.” Game, set, match. Admonish away.</p>
<p>Except that she might be regardless, which is the second reality that results from Dr. Valliere’s observation. The woman who believes she is safer because she’s avoiding something like heavy drinking might well be safer to a particular kind of attack. But there are many others, and being lulled into a false sense of security because of the avoidance of one behavior will likely blind her to the danger that can exist under the most responsible appearing of circumstances.  Women are raped by trusted friends. They’re raped during the daytime while studying or just listening to music with known, clean-cut, well-regarded men in their communities, on their campuses, from their churches. Alcohol is extremely helpful to acquaintance rapists. But it is hardly their only tool.</p>
<p>Youth involves blind spots, but regardless of age, risk-taking is at bottom the essence of life.  There is no elimination of it short of solitary confinement. What we must do is grasp that vulnerability exists only when danger is present, and turn the focus rightly on the dangerous and away from the endangered.</p>
<p>Because when we create rules, particularly ones laced with moral superiority in order to somehow deliver us from evil, we then distance ourselves from those who break them. When those people are victimized, we rest easy, believing that our wisdom and temperance saved us. But there are always more rules, both to make and to break.  In the end, all that rule making accomplishes is the encouragement of an insidious urge to will to life something other than luck separating us from the unlucky.  So we&#8217;ll draw attention to the choices the rule breakers made that we wouldn’t make. And we&#8217;ll blame them for theirs.</p>
<p style='text-align:left'>&copy; 2012, <a href='http://rogercanaff.com/site'>Roger Canaff</a>. All rights reserved. </p>
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		<title>In Paterno We Trusted. Now We&#8217;re Left Cold.</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Jan 2012 04:57:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Roger Canaff</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Death comes for us all.  And while it seems to have come with relative and merciful swiftness for Joseph Paterno, there are many who believe that the man truly died in November of last year when his Valley was flooded with sick, pale light and a stinking truth stirred in its glare.  Death was not [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Death comes for us all.  And while it seems to have come with relative and merciful swiftness for Joseph Paterno, there are many who believe that the man truly died in November of last year when his Valley was flooded with sick, pale light and a stinking truth stirred in its glare.  Death was not swift, but rather a protracted, miserably public, three-month torture session.  Some see this as the gross mistreatment of a scapegoat who had nothing to be ashamed of.  Others view it as the bitterly just end of a pompous villain, brought low in time to suffer his downfall. Neither view is accurate or at all helpful.</p>
<p>What must be avoided, in fact, is a binary approach to viewing the man as his body cools and his soul proceeds to whatever is next.  Demanding that Paterno be either lionized or demonized allows for a pernicious diversion from what desperately needs to be understood, which is how the demons of secrecy, misery and darkness thrived in “Happy Valley” in the first place.</p>
<p>Far too many would prefer a two-dimensional explanation to the real one.  They’d prefer, consciously or not, to reduce the shattering, life-altering experience of God-only-knows how many victims, fueled and protected by a monstrosity of an institution, to a stage play and a handful of players.  Western culture and the tender, succor of myth shield us nicely; it’s not a frightening, complex issue at all, but rather a simple “Greek tragedy” with an almost poignant, tsk-tsk lesson for those with ears to hear.  Paterno was its flawed hero, its fallen angel. A neatly wrapped archetype for the ages to follow.</p>
<p>This is dangerous oversimplification.</p>
<p>Acknowledging that the allegations are yet unproven, I believe they are true and that they involve far more than nine victims. I also believe that whatever blame there is for what occurred at Penn State is shared more broadly and in more nuanced ways than much of what’s been suggested so far.</p>
<p>To be clear, I do not in the least blame the innocent spirit that underpins the excitement of cheering for the team.  I fully acknowledge the greatness of the football tradition that has played such a positive role in the development of the university, the lives of the players, and the fans and supporters. But if there is one thing I believe our universe is truly ordered with, it is the unbending concept of the yin-yang, the Chinese philosophical intellection that tells us light cannot exist without darkness, joy without sorrow, pleasure without pain.</p>
<p>Prize without price.</p>
<p>For decades, the prize of Penn State football greatness was won by many, but guided by, channeled through and embodied in Joe Paterno.  To assume that that prize came without some price exacted for it is the height of foolishness. The question is not whether it was paid, but how and by whom.  Paterno apparently had high personal and professional standards and valued character, service, and education as much as he did wins. He should be remembered warmly for it and emulated appropriately. But as well, he was both product and protector of an entity far too large for any ‘saint’ to control, and more importantly one that was depended on to produce: Money. Glory. Status. The entity became a beast. The beast needed to be fed. It’s worth noting that the Sandusky matter is not the first time institutional concerns and image have been <a href="http://loop21.com/content/other-penn-state-cover-death-threats-against-black-students?page=1">accused</a> of taking precedence over the welfare of youth in Happy Valley.</p>
<p>While many questions remain unanswered, it appears at this point that Paterno acted without malice, but also with at least dangerous naïveté and at worst a perception noxiously colored by the responsibilities he felt toward his institution. His “superiors” appear much more directly responsible for decisions that apparently allowed a predator to spread additional misery in amounts we are years if ever from fully grasping. But wherever these men fall on the scale of guilt and accountability, it is the institution- the beast- they served that likely guided their decisions whether they fully understood it or not.</p>
<p>And beyond these caretakers are the rest of us. We who demand the glory of gridiron victory to fill our lives, diminishing those who cannot deliver it. We who increasingly depend on the filling of stadiums rather than  public commitment to fund research and open classrooms. We who allow the stakes to rise higher and higher until nothing else can possibly trump the needs of the hungry institutions we&#8217;ve created, regardless of what unholy things thrive within their bowels.  We who eventually agree, whether in high-level meetings or in our own hungry hearts, that nothing else matters.</p>
<p>Certainly not the silent anguish of boys on cold, locker room floors.</p>
<p style='text-align:left'>&copy; 2012, <a href='http://rogercanaff.com/site'>Roger Canaff</a>. All rights reserved. </p>
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		<title>At a University of Vermont Fraternity, A Brother With A Problem</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Dec 2011 05:01:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Roger Canaff</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>It’s really not a secret: I have a pretty strong &#8216;anima&#8216; or feminine side.</p>
<p>I don’t resent it. I think it’s made me a much more effective special victims prosecutor over the years.  And in any event it’s who I am. My closest circle of male friends will readily confirm that I navigate those friendships [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It’s really not a secret: I have a pretty strong &#8216;<a href="http://webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/jung.html">anima</a>&#8216; or feminine side.</p>
<p>I don’t resent it. I think it’s made me a much more effective special victims prosecutor over the years.  And in any event it’s who I am. My closest circle of male friends will readily confirm that I navigate those friendships more as if I were a spouse or partner than any sort of a “guy’s guy.” That can be frustrating for everyone involved.  And of course, I have my professionally inspired inferences, which should and do make me more sensitive to things like <a href="http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2009/07/23/this-is-what-rape-culture-looks-like/">rape culture</a>, male privilege, and other issues faced by women and girls in ways that most men really can’t imagine.  So yeah- I’m something of a woman trapped in man&#8217;s body if you’re going to buy into a lot of generalizations about how women think and react, and what it means to be emotionally “feminine.”</p>
<p>So be it.  Nevertheless, I’m a straight guy and generally typical where sexual fantasizing is concerned.  So shameful or not, tasteless or not, over the years and at every social stage of my life, I&#8217;ll readily admit that I’ve taken some part in the game of “Hey man, who would you sleep with in [insert environment here]?”</p>
<p>And believe me, it can be any environment.  And it is <em>every</em> environment, at least where members of the opposite sex are even remotely observable.  A high school Spanish class.  A summer camp.  A basic training unit, an introductory psychology course, the 5<sup>th</sup> floor of a dorm, an office mail room, the accounting department, the DNA lab, etc, etc, etc.</p>
<p>Yes, it’s tawdry. And utterly pointless.  Regardless, it’s what men do.  Gay men do it as well, and sometimes in mixed groups we’ll all play the game, with the gay guys making their own considered judgments about men, and often commenting with high degrees of validity on women as well.</p>
<p>For most of us, this stupid tradition begins innocently, scattered across that late elementary to middle or junior high school period where girls become suddenly and then perpetually interesting (and of course, for homosexual boys it really can’t begin until they find themselves in much more progressive environments then the kind I came up in).  So it might start in 5<sup>th</sup> grade or thereabouts with “who would you want to see without her clothes on?”  But it quickly progresses to more imaginative and specific scenarios, and it never really stops.  It’s far from angelic, often inaccurate, and always objectifying.  It’s wrong and I won’t make excuses for it.</p>
<p>I’ll also note that, regardless of what I do and who I am or profess to be, I’ve played the game in places that are hardly feminist enclaves. I’ve played it in warehouses, on airport tarmacs and construction sites where I worked for years before entering professional life.  I’ve played it in countless police cars, detective squad rooms, bars, diners and alleyways, passing the time for various reasons and waiting for something to happen. I’ve played it with men educated and not, supposedly enlightened and not, gentle and not.</p>
<p>What I’ve never, ever heard in roughly 35 years is any man, anywhere, ask “so if you could rape someone, who would it be?”</p>
<p>It’s true:  That cyber-blessed term “WTF” was honestly coined for such an abomination.</p>
<p>There are variations of this game I will remove myself from or avoid if I detect cruelty or a line I just don’t feel comfortable crossing.  But no guy in my experience has ever even approached the idea of rape.  Ever.  <em>If I could rape someone, who would it be? </em> Even writing that out makes me cringe.</p>
<p>So “WTF” the fraternity brother at the University of Vermont was thinking when he <a href="http://jezebel.com/5867922/frat-suspended-after-distributing-rapey-survey-to-members">added</a> that to the lets-get-know-each-other ‘new brother questionnaire’ is worth exploring.  And I mean between him and a good mental health provider.  Because it’s more than just tasteless; it’s downright scary.  Perhaps the guy who wrote this and anyone else at this chapter of Sigma Phi Epsilon who deemed it acceptable is just remarkably awkward and clumsy with word choice.  But I’ll vote for disordered.  The word “rape” is one of the ugliest in our language. It’s mono-syllabic, blunt, and shocking. It’s supposed to be.  While it usually doesn’t involve these things, it conjures in most minds gratuitous violence, torn clothing, screaming, and injury.  It at least evokes- as it should- terror and a life-altering, shattering experience of trauma on the part of the victim.  So how it could be in any way confused with the desire to engage with someone sexually is beyond me.  There are psychological and legal terms for men who only or primarily respond to non-consensual sexual situations.  If that’s the case with the questionnaire author or authors, then those who share their environment should know about it.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m glad that (at least) there&#8217;s been a tremendous backlash at UVM and an appropriate student <a href="http://www.wcax.com/story/16319176/offensive-survey-may-spell-end-of-fraternity">response</a> to the leaked document. I hope this gratifying response lingers after the dust settles, and that male and female students in this well-loved college environment continue to reject the idea of anything like this in their midst.  Because it’s more than just disgusting.  It’s dangerous.</p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Dec 2011 21:07:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>“Presumed Innocent” was perhaps the one book that led me more than any other into law school and prosecution.</p>
<p>In it, Scott Turow describes “Brownian Movement,” the apparently random collision of particles in the air, resulting in a hum that children can sometimes hear before the bones of the inner-ear harden in puberty. Turow’s character, a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“Presumed Innocent” was perhaps the one book that led me more than any other into law school and prosecution.</p>
<p>In it, Scott Turow describes “Brownian Movement,” the apparently random collision of particles in the air, resulting in a hum that children can sometimes hear before the bones of the inner-ear harden in puberty. Turow’s character, a married man, describes the allure of other women as something akin to Brownian Movement before meeting the woman in his office who becomes his love interest and is already murdered as the story begins.  When he meets her, that movement rises to a fever pitch.</p>
<p>The fact of evil in the world is something I’ve often related to Turow’s view of Brownian Movement. The circumstances of my professional life assure me that it is there.  I accept it.  On streets and in train cars, passing houses, farms and city blocks, I am aware of its presence. It hums, usually just above or below the surface of my thoughts.  I can, thankfully, usually tune it out when I’m with my toddler nephew or in the festive company of my parents and other loved ones.</p>
<p>But then sometimes, as it did to the tortured character of Rusty Sabich, it hums louder. It <em>sings.</em></p>
<p>That is the Penn State sex abuse scandal.  Many fans and members of the university community would  prefer that it be called the Jerry Sandusky sex scandal, but I won’t (even the word “scandal,” frankly, trivializes this horror as if it was a torrid affair between celebrities). That’s because Sandusky is, as happens when institutions inadvertently protect predators, almost a minor character in the volcanic ugliness that is this situation.  Of course, Sandusky allegedly represents the center of the pathos that stalked the Penn State community and now threatens to scar it forever.  But Sandusky is not the embodiment of it.  Rather, he is ultimately a trigger in the larger, full horror of the situation.  The cover-ups, the rug sweeping, the second-guessing and rationalization, all in service to a 70 million dollar a year <a href="http://www.npr.org/2011/11/18/142494972/scandal-tarnishes-penn-states-lucrative-football-program">enterprise</a>, represent the true scope of the evil that is Penn State.</p>
<p>And the cancer grows.</p>
<p>A young man mercifully cloaked- for now- as “Victim 1” has left his high school, about 30 miles from Penn State, because of <a href="http://msn.foxsports.com/collegefootball/story/Penn-State-victim-forced-to-leave-school-because-of-bullying-112111">bullying</a>.  He has apparently been blamed by fellow students for the unearthing of the truth surrounding the revered and local behemoth.  This is an excruciating multiplication- in numbers at least- of the type of incomprehensible betrayal child sex abuse victims often feel within their own families when the abuse is uncovered.  Victims are usually never more alone than after the abuse is discovered, whether they purposely revealed it or not. Siblings, non-offending parents, even grandparents are suddenly distant or much worse. The victim, after all, has “torn the family apart,” interrupted possible financial support, brought shame upon the family because of a ‘splash effect’ that will surely color the whole clan, etc, etc. The fact of the perpetrator’s utter and sole guilt for all of these depredations simply gets lost as younger siblings grapple innocently but cruelly with the separation, the shame, and the doubt.  Older members who should know better still often fail with wildly differing degrees of willfulness to shield the child from blame. And of course, in many cases, this is exactly what the perpetrator warned the child would happen if s/he dared reveal anything.</p>
<p>This is perhaps the farthest reach of the anguish that is child sexual abuse.  When perpetrators warn children not to tell, they are not always bluffing.  In fact, when they warn of betrayal, anger, collapsing support and utter isolation, they are more often than not right on target. The system can only react one way, which generally confirms fears related to a separation of the family, time in foster care, police presence and judicial appearances. This is terrifying beyond words for most adults, let alone children. But when the second shoe falls, when family members disbelieve, equivocate, or flat out resent despite believing, the suffering blooms like blood in water.  The child is forever changed. Recantation is typical, and valid cases more often than not go nowhere.</p>
<p>Sandusky, according to <a href="http://www.attorneygeneral.gov/press.aspx?id=6270">statements</a>, demanded secrecy and seems to have leaned on his alleged victims actively, calling them repeatedly and appearing even needy and clingy at times. I have no idea if or how he warned them of other consequences for revealing what he was doing, but frankly it would have been superfluous. He was Jerry Sandusky, and they were in or near State College.  He allegedly hunted through his own charity and perpetrated in athletic facilities. He was figuratively at God’s right hand.</p>
<p>And there’s the rub. If that phrase- God’s right hand- offends religious readers, I apologize. But the point needs to be made.  Penn State football became, through a confluence of circumstances surrounding an iconic and otherwise honorable coach, a deity to be worshiped rather than a college team to be rooted for. The resulting millions in revenue silenced anything that might have tainted or challenged this entity.  If reports are true, then Sandusky allowed a beast inside of him to run free in the permissive environment that the god-thing allowed. That’s what happens when institutions become godlike: Predators either seek to infiltrate them, or blossom within them once it becomes obvious they can.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.nydailynews.com/sports/college/syracuse-police-chief-dennis-duval-knew-allegations-bernie-fine-child-sex-abuse-2002-current-chief-article-1.983984">Allegations</a> at Syracuse’s equally revered and powerful basketball program and the Boston <a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-400_162-57336728/deceased-red-sox-clubhouse-chief-accused-of-abuse/">Redsox</a> organization now follow. There will be more, as sure as Catholic dioceses the world over exploded in fire-cracker sequence, breaking my heart around the time I entered this field.  Skeptics and die-hard fans will cry foul and insist there is money and fame to be gained in jumping on the bandwagon Penn State has started with false allegations.  In almost all cases, they’ll be wrong.  And God help the victims who will come forward despite the scorn, the bullying, and the dull, mean hate that coming forward will win them against these institutions.</p>
<p>By all appearances, the wide world of sports must now endure a bloodletting. For the sake of the many good things athletics brings to players and fans alike, I hope its leaders stand tall and its fans prove gentle and open-hearted. But regardless, the world of sports is cracking, opening, splitting.  That high, insistent hum is rising yet again.</p>
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		<title>Of Angels, A Stranger, and an Absent Father</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Nov 2011 05:59:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Roger Canaff</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>“Though we share so many secrets, there are some we never tell.” William Martin (Billy) Joel</p>
<p>He called it “The Stranger” and titled a 1977 masterpiece after it.   In my business we sometimes refer to it as the “third persona” with a nod to Jungian psychology.  A persona is simply a mask, the figurative one we [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“Though we share so many secrets, there are some we never tell.” William Martin (Billy) Joel</p>
<p>He called it “The Stranger” and titled a 1977 masterpiece after it.   In my business we sometimes refer to it as the “third persona” with a nod to Jungian psychology.  A persona is simply a mask, the figurative one we put on to interact with others as we go about our lives.  Most of us wear several of them. Our first persona, generally, is what we show to the viewing world. A second may be what we show a lover or a trusted friend, sometimes intermittently and whether we want to or not.  But the third is a dark animal indeed. It’s the face we show to no one. It’s the side of ourselves we seek to conceal at all costs.  We all have these shadows of ourselves, these Strangers, inside of us.  As the song says, they are not always evil, and they are not always wrong.  But whether our third persona is harmless or not, a wicked trick of the mind is that we almost always to fail to recognize that it exists in others. We assume, tragically at times, that we can fully know people around us because of the personas they reveal to us. We tell ourselves that we can sense, we can see, we can discern.</p>
<p>We can’t. The Stranger remains, hidden and invisible.</p>
<p>Jerry Sandusky is no exception. He was charitable. He was hard working. He was skilled, admired, and accomplished. He was also, according to eye-witness testimony, a child rapist.  His third persona was apparently demonic, and regardless of how ugly and evil, his closest relatives, his wife, his co-workers and his legendary boss would not have detected it based on what he chose to show them. Thus reveals the one merciful thing that can perhaps be said about the group of men who, from all appearances at this point, conspired to protect Jerry Sandusky at the expense of so much. They didn’t understand the third persona, and believed they knew a man because of accomplishments and attributes that say nothing about what he is capable of otherwise.</p>
<p>But mercy for men like Paterno, Curley, Schultz and others in the Institution that is Penn State evaporates with the reality that Sandusky’s persona was exposed at crucial times.  There were revelations- a smaller word will not suffice- that vomited a glimpse of it to the great Institution and to its “sainted” mastodon at different points on a long <a href="http://deadspin.com/jerry-sandusky-timeline/">timeline</a>.  These revelations are sometimes the only indications an otherwise decent community will receive that a predator stalks its children. The child victims themselves, God bless them, are often the <a href="http://1in6.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/The1in6Statistic1.pdf">last</a> who will reveal the Stranger in the man; it’s just a bridge too far most of the time.</p>
<p>Those without faith will call these revelations nothing more than dumb luck, inattention on Sandusky’s part, or the blind weight of circumstances.  But my own framework of faith suggests to me that these brief flashes of light in the darkness- the anal rape Mike McQueary saw in 2002, for instance, or the oral rape the janitor before him saw in 2000- represent the extremities of desperate and semi-potent angels, using whatever cosmic power they can summon to poke momentary holes in the darkness, thereby alerting the powerful to what the powerless cannot utter.</p>
<p>When these extremities reached Joseph Paterno in March of 2002, the angels must have shouted with joy.  A more powerful man, one with more credibility, perceived decency and moral authority, could not possibly have been reached in the community in which Sandusky apparently hunted.  Ironically enough, a recognized origin of the name Paterno is a shortening of the Latin <em>Pater Noster</em>, or Our Father, the first two words of the only prayer Jesus allegedly taught his disciples.  The great man, the father figure, “St. Joe” himself now knew, and the Stranger in Sandusky would be exposed.</p>
<p>But alas, there was an Institution to protect as well, and in the end it won out.  An all-too human Paterno responded as feebly as he legally could.  The two officials he went to responded by restricting Sandusky’s  access to facilities and his ability to bring boys onto campus.  The Institution was protected. The community that surrounded it, and its wide-eyed, star struck boys, could be damned.</p>
<p>Perhaps these men can be forgiven for not knowing what I know; that the eight victims Sandusky is alleged to have abused is <a href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;rct=j&amp;q=&amp;esrc=s&amp;source=web&amp;cd=6&amp;ved=0CEcQFjAF&amp;url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.missingkids.com%2Fen_US%2Fpublications%2FNC70.pdf&amp;ei=auLJTsn4JOPr0gGW5qH5Dw&amp;usg=AFQjCNHIwTLBkDBO5b1DlALaPahAMniffg&amp;sig2=FjLpOABEmm7718vWs0tqsg">probably</a> more like 80 or even much, much more than that.  That the after-effects of child sexual abuse result in a panoply of emotional, psychological and physical disorders that literally truncate lives, poison future relationships, stunt potential and shred hope itself like shrapnel.  That the “loss of innocence” suffered by boys abused in the way Sandusky is believed to have done so is almost trivial compared to the bleak, mental torture that follows. That the only way out is through, and that many simply never make it through.  That the morally bankrupt and cynical decisions made in 1998, 2000, and 2002, as well as before and after, allowed a man to further manufacture misery, betrayal and violence that will haunt lifetimes in its wake.</p>
<p>Perhaps.  But at the end of the day, in 2002 and God only knows how many times before and after, these men bet an Institution and its football program over their community and the tender lives of its children.  While the victims themselves have paid most dearly for this terrible wager, their fate is tied inextricably to that of the community.  Now the suffering of both will echo louder than the joyful sound of the throngs in the stadium, and longer than the legacy of victories under fall skies.</p>
<p>And the angels wept bitterly.</p>
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		<title>Judge William Adams, A Camera, and the Power of Light</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Nov 2011 23:51:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Roger Canaff</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Roughly 2000 years ago an itinerant rabbi gave a sermon about light.  The right thing to do with a lamp, said the rabbi, was to let it shine, not put it under a basket.  That made sense in a time where light after sunset was a luxury; hence the parable.  And of course, in the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Roughly 2000 years ago an itinerant rabbi gave a sermon about light.  The right thing to do with a lamp, said the rabbi, was to let it shine, not put it under a basket.  That made sense in a time where light after sunset was a luxury; hence the parable.  And of course, in the spirit of parables, there are other forms of light, and other functions for what we know as light.  Light illuminates, and in so doing exposes.</p>
<p>In 2004, a remarkable young woman with a disability <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/police-investigate-texas-judge-video-beating-14870188#.TrIhD1app5s">shined</a> a light in the form of a video camera on the pathology, hatefulness and pure evil of a man who, until last week, had been a sitting judge in Texas. The video shows him, her father, beating her with a belt in a breathtakingly brutal way, over seven interminable minutes.</p>
<p>I am using words like “pathology” and “evil” distinctly, although as the study of psychology evolves, the difference between what we might call mental illness and what we have historically called evil are blurring in ways that make people like me- prosecutors, and arbiters of legal blame- uncomfortable.  But for now, I’m comfortable, perhaps recklessly so, with discussing the two separately.  I believe the man is probably sick.  I also believe he’s evil.</p>
<p>Millions have seen the video.  Millions more, thanks in part to the appropriate “trigger” warnings that have been associated with it, have demurred.  I watched every second of it, and more than once.  The video’s subject is my job, after all; I have seen things far worse, but in many ways I haven’t seen anything quite as naked and telling as this.  Because sometimes it takes a camera in the right place at the right time to truly expose what lies beneath far more facades of normalcy than most of us understand.  A camera won’t flinch. It won’t turn away. It will simply record with passive silence, and in situations like this one perhaps its growing ubiquity in our lives is a positive thing.  After all, it allowed a 16 year-old Hillary Adams to preserve something that is simply unbelievable to many- that a respected member of the judicial bench, a smiling, reasonable looking man, would nevertheless be capable of a vicious beating laced with profanity against a young girl with cerebral palsy.</p>
<p>You see, I have prosecuted and assisted with hundreds of cases where I knew the truth, but also feared I’d never be able to infuse a jury with the courage to convict. I never had proof like the kind Hillary possessed; the kind she had the wherewithal and technology to create.  And so doubt would creep in at the edges, doubt fueled by myths that protect men like William Adams and his now estranged wife.  Myths that whisper that couples like the Adams’ aren’t the types who could hurt a disabled child that way. Myths that education, privilege, community stature, the genetic accident of white skin, and other niceties can’t co-exist with methodological torture and wanton cruelty.  Myths like the one William Adams is <a href="http://gawker.com/5855664/judge-abuse-of-disabled-daughter-not-as-bad-as-it-looks-on-tape">selling</a> right now, that the issue was really “discipline” and that what the video shows “looks worse than it is.”</p>
<p>Ah, but then sometimes, in blessed fashion, a camera shatters the myths; a camera placed by an intelligent and desperate child who has learned, as many family violence survivors do, to predict the escalation of hostilities that leads to violence.</p>
<p>So the video depicts exactly what occurred; it was Judge William Adams, community leader, outwardly decent parent, arbiter of <em>justice</em>, ripping into his child’s body with a lustful but eerily calm exuberance, armed with a leather strap. It was this man, uttering the word “f—king,” 14 times as he did so.</p>
<p>It was also Hillary’s mother, Hallie, whose participation was less violent but no less sickening.  I’m glad that she has repaired her relationship with her daughter, and that Hillary has forgiven her.  She’ll get nothing from me.  I understand that I am running afoul of many domestic violence experts who maintain that a battered woman can be rendered powerless over years of brainwashing and abuse to where her own violence or failure to protect her children cannot be attributed to her in terms of blame.  I am sympathetic to the dynamics that exist, and attribute the lion’s share of the blame to William Adams, where it belongs.  But I draw the line on anyone who fails to protect their own children, regardless of what they are facing in another relationship. Hallie Adams’ explanation on <a href="http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/45146961/ns/today-today_people/t/daughter-beating-video-why-i-released-it/#.TrYAI3EZBww">Today</a> was, to me, less than impressive.  She calmly deflected blame by claiming victimhood herself and assigning an addiction to William.  I’m sure this is accurate, but it doesn’t give her a pass where I’m concerned. She’s clearly not the primary abuser in the nightmare world Hillary navigated for so long.  But she made choices that I cannot abide, and one of them was graphically showcased on this video with its own dose of profanity.</p>
<p>A five-year statute of limitations will likely protect both from criminal prosecution.  Adams’ judicial career might be over, which would perhaps be the most just event he’s been witness to since that career began.  There are many other ways to look at this case, Hillary’s courage and healing, and also the response to the video as Hillary is launched into a temporary but bright public spotlight.  I wish nothing more than for her to live a full and happy life unencumbered by the evil visited upon her.</p>
<p>For me, though, the deepest value of what Hillary did by placing a running camera on her dresser and a scarf over the tell-tale blinking red light, was to allow a robotic, impassive eye to simply witness what far too many believe to be impossible.  My friend and colleague <a href="http://www.annemunch.org/">Anne Munch</a> once told me the story of a police chief in a small, idyllic Colorado town who was asked a typical ‘softball’ question by a reporter:  “So, is this town a safe place to live?”</p>
<p>Rather than giving the pat and expected answer, the wise chief apparently looked at the reporter evenly and said what I believe might be the most plainly accurate thing that can be said about literally any locality on the globe.</p>
<p>“It depends on who you live with.”</p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 03 Oct 2011 02:52:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Elizabeth “Lizzy” Seeberg passed to the next life on September 10, 2010, a little more than a year ago. I did not know her. Readers of this space, however, know that I was profoundly touched by her life, her death, her courage, and finally the courage of her parents as 9/10/10, for them, bled brutally [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://rogercanaff.com/site/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/lizzy.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-923" title="lizzy" src="http://rogercanaff.com/site/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/lizzy-300x168.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="168" /></a>Elizabeth “Lizzy” Seeberg passed to the next life on September 10, 2010, a little more than a year ago. I did not know her. Readers of this space, however, know that I was profoundly touched by her life, her death, her courage, and finally the courage of her parents as 9/10/10, for them, bled brutally into the following fall and winter.</p>
<p>For the Seebergs, last fall was not a typical one for a Roman Catholic, Chicagoland family with multi-generational ties to Notre Dame du Lac and St. Mary’s. There was no warm delight in the football schedule, the changing of the seasons, or the approach of the holidays.  Instead it was a dark struggle in the wake of a nightmare with a suddenly impenetrable bureaucracy that was the Notre Dame administration. Since I and <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/11/25/notre-dames-shameful-punt-in-the-probe-of-lizzy-seebergs-sad-d/">others</a> have described them before, I won’t recount here the missteps I believe Notre Dame took, both with the investigation of Lizzy’s attack and with its interpretation of federal privacy laws. Suffice to say the Seebergs, already dealing with the worst nightmare any parent could face, were met largely with incompetence and then obstruction where her attack and death were concerned.</p>
<p>However, their resolve yielded some <a href="http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2011-07-03/news/ct-met-notre-dame-civil-rights-reacti20110703_1_elizabeth-lizzy-seeberg-south-bend-campus-date-mary-seeberg">progress</a> earlier this year when Notre Dame agreed to significant reforms in its response to sexual violence after an investigation by the Department of Education (DoE) in the wake of Lizzy’s death.</p>
<p>And beyond Notre Dame, hope also sprung forth in the form of DoE policy with the publication of an April, 2011 “Dear Colleague” <a href="http://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/docs/dcl-factsheet-201104.html">letter</a> from Russlyn Ali, Assistant Secretary for Civil Rights at the Department of Education.  The bottom line is that just about every U.S. public or private institute of higher learning relies on federal funding for various parts of its mission. The DoE Office of Civil Rights is empowered to condition receipt of federal dollars on meeting certain standards of protection for students at risk for discrimination. The office considers sexual harassment and assault to fall under that category.  The letter outlines several things colleges need to do in order to be in compliance with best practices where the response to sexual violence is concerned. Examples are things like preventing offenders from personally cross-examining victims in non-legal disciplinary hearings, and requiring a preponderance standard in determining the outcome. These things are hardly revolutionary or anti-due process.</p>
<p>Nevertheless, a backlash has arisen from various pundits who see these measures as some sort of perverse manifestation of political correctness that threatens to derail some precious and flowering aspect of adolescent college life.</p>
<p>One commentator, Sandy Hingston, unsurprisingly a romance novelist, tragically <a href="http://www.phillymag.com/articles/the_new_rules_of_college_sex/?show_ad">conflates</a> the sexual exploration of adolescence with rape. She harkens back to what were apparently her and her counterparts’ own experiences of awkwardly waking up with boys in compromising situations and just not making a big deal of it. To the extent that such consensual liaisons happen, she’s correct- a big deal shouldn’t be made of it.</p>
<p>But here’s the rub: It isn’t.</p>
<p>Those awkward, fuzzy situations continue to occur every night in college life- more so now than then.  But they almost never produce complaints of rape, and nothing in the DoE’s guidance will change that. The fact is, most women and men who are clearly sexually violated in liquor-fueled, late-night encounters do not wake up and cry rape, let alone what victims of murkier situations do. The over-riding response to being violated sexually is to blame oneself and say nothing, and that will not quickly change. The DoE guidelines are simply helping to level the playing field in cases where the violation is clear enough, as in the case of Lizzy Seeberg, where an outcry is not only just, but necessary to the security of the campus and all of the students on it.</p>
<p>But this is lost on commentators who type with panicked fingers about how these changes will surely quell romance, stunt the college experience, and lead to the rounding up of men and permanent victim-hood of women.</p>
<p>Nonsense. This is argument in a bubble, utterly unschooled or unaware of how sexual violence actually occurs between people in the real world. Another commentator, Peter Berkowtiz, <a href="http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424053111903596904576516232905230642.html">wonders</a> aloud in the Wall Street Journal which campus leaders will come forward to challenge this new, frightening world order. Among others, he entreats literature professors to instruct that “particularly where erotic desire is involved, intentions can be obscure, passions conflicting, the heart murky and the soul divided.”</p>
<p>Really? So when a woman (or a man) is trembling in a strange bed, or stumbling, half-dressed from a backseat or a back room with the dawning horror of having been sexually assaulted, what she must first do is consider the divided and murky nature of her passionate soul?</p>
<p>Both commentators can be forgiven for naiveté, but neither have a clue what sexual violence really looks like.  The reality is, when complaints are made- or even contemplated- it’s almost never a close call.  It’s almost never a gray area.  Despite the musings of Mr. Berkowitz and others, sexual violence isn’t simply an unfair moniker for the complicated, erotic interplay of Rhett, Scarlett and a swollen, harvest moon in a sultry, starlit sky. It’s really much more banal, blunt, and evil than that. When it happens, and it does, it needs to be dealt with competently and fairly.</p>
<p>Competence and fairness. That’s what Lizzy Seeberg needed, and in large part what she was denied. That’s why her parents fight on, not for Lizzy now, but lovingly in her memory and valiantly for the millions of women they know will face what she faced. They could have been easily forgiven for shutting down and tuning out after the loss of the light in their lives, yet they are doing neither. Their angel is gone from this life, but they are not content with waiting to see her in the next. They are fighting to protect the angels of others who will wander onto campuses and into situations unmistakable in their criminality and deserving of a realistic, healing, and just response. The DoE’s efforts and its hard look at Notre Dame are a product of that fight. Both are welcome steps toward a better world.</p>
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		<title>Diallo, Justice, and Light</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Sep 2011 17:49:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>In an angst-filled conversation regarding his own duties to it, Russell Crowe’s character in the movie &#8220;Gladiator&#8221; says to his Emperor, “I have seen much of the rest of the world. It is brutal, and cruel, and dark. Rome is the light.”</p>
<p>Despite falling far short of its ideals, and even in the face of an [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://rogercanaff.com/site/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/iStock_000001650065Small.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-902" title="iStock_000001650065Small" src="http://rogercanaff.com/site/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/iStock_000001650065Small-300x199.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="199" /></a>In an angst-filled conversation regarding his own duties to it, Russell Crowe’s character in the movie &#8220;Gladiator&#8221; says to his Emperor, “I have seen much of the rest of the world. It is brutal, and cruel, and dark. Rome is the light.”</p>
<p>Despite falling far short of its ideals, and even in the face of an arguable decline, it is still possible to substitute “America” for “Rome” in that sentence and have it be painfully, desperately true for much of the rest of the world.</p>
<p>America is still the light, and New York is still its embodiment. The gift from France in her harbor was stunning not only in its descriptive brilliance but also in its uncanny timing. The woman holds a torch— the symbolism is so perfect it could never have existed in fiction. And her placement coincided perfectly with the greatest influx of immigrants the world has ever known.</p>
<p>Many more stand in lines at JFK now than behold the torch, but still they come.  Nafissatou Diallo was one of them.  In her, the Manhattan DA’s office encountered an individual much like millions of others who claw their way to that thin, little island and then navigate it any way they can. As we now <a href="http://www.nycourts.gov/whatsnew/pdf/dsk_motion_to_dismiss.pdf">know</a>, getting there was messy. She lied on a visa application. She was taught, apparently, to lie convincingly about sexual violence. Whether she was actually brutalized and raped in her native country has been challenged in light of some admitted fabrication, but I have little doubt she suffered greatly in a manner similar to what she was taught to concoct, and was willing to do anything she had to do in order to escape where she was.</p>
<p>This should shock no one. The journey to America— to New York— has always been characterized as often as not with deception. With bribery. With fraud, abuse, and soul-selling, desperate behavior. I have no idea what my great-grandparents did for the chance to float past that torch, but I’d be slow to judge them for it.</p>
<p>The reach for America also attracts desperate people who have been broken by events and reshaped in ways that make them difficult at times to understand, defend, and support.  Cultural barriers, distrust of authority, and a constant fear of the truth itself are not uncommon in people for whom candor and innocence have been met with brutality and perfidy.</p>
<p>Surviving in New York has been apparently messy for Ms. Diallo as well. I prosecuted sex crimes in the Bronx, where she lives, for two years.  I saw the realities of living there on blue collar income, and got a glimpse of what people did to make ends meet. Diallo defrauded the housing authority, we know. She had shady friends who used her for her bank accounts.  Yes, that happens in New York. Diallo got by— hustling, surviving, call it whatever you want— the way so many do in a city capable of bringing the strongest, most resourceful people to begging knees. But she was making ends meet, in all of her imperfect, rule-bending glory, working long and difficult hours as a maid and raising a child.</p>
<p>And then she encountered Dominique Strauss-Kahn, and chose to report what he did to her. And suddenly the rules she was bending or breaking mattered much more than perhaps she ever imagined.</p>
<p>Those familiar with me will be unsurprised to hear that I believe Diallo was attacked by DSK. As we know from the blunt, blind force of DNA, a sexual encounter between them took place.  The only issue is whether she consented to it and then lied.  Is it strictly possible that Diallo had— or quickly formed— a vile and remarkably elaborate plan to frame a renowned economist, seeking a future payoff as some adjunct of the criminal justice response?  A woman who reportedly cannot read or write in any language?  And further, does this evil turn of events merely dovetail by coincidence with the several other allegations of sexual aggressiveness and/or violence <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/book-by-former-dsk-colleague-alleges-he-assaulted-a-mexican-maid-too-2011-5">leveled</a> against Mr. Strass-Kahn in several places around the globe?</p>
<p>For better or worse, I know far too much about sexual violence and those who commit it to credit that scenario as anything other than fantastic.</p>
<p>Regardless, the decision to dismiss the case, while arguable, is not one I&#8217;m criticizing.  I am familiar with the challenges the DA faced under New York law, particularly the necessarily rushed presentation of the case to a grand jury. I applaud the office for what appears to be exemplary ethical behavior. My only criticism of NYDA concerns the meticulously detailed and humiliating public motion to dismiss the indictment. Unintentional the humiliation may have been, but hurtful it was nonetheless.  Perhaps, as the motion painstakingly details, the case was not deserving of prosecution. But neither was Diallo deserving of such a detailed public lambasting.  I am aware of no legal necessity for that level of detail in seeking the dismissal of an indicted case.</p>
<p>Of course, the DA cited more than just Ms. Diallo’s recent past. Also detailed was apparently odd behavior and reversals that undermined the faith prosecutors had in her.  But again, this is what we sometimes see in people when unimaginable circumstances have driven them here, and we would surely fare no better were we driven elsewhere.  Couple that with cultural and language barriers, with how our minds build and recall memories in traumatic situations, and I believe explaining the inconsistencies might have been worth fighting for in a court of law.  But in fairness, it was not my case.</p>
<p>The point is that Diallo was rendered incredible by her choices, but many of those choices were driven by circumstances most of us live happily ignorant of.  I&#8217;m not excusing whatever illegal behavior she may have engaged in over time, or the lack of candor with the DA.  She is rightfully responsible for her actions, but not beyond what is remotely foreseeable.  I doubt she ever thought those actions would also make her tragically powerless when it came to standing up to an attack in the very country she sought out for asylum and a better life.</p>
<p>Upon Diallo, as upon all, New York has bestowed gifts.  From Diallo, as from all, it has exacted a price in return. What’s perverse is not necessarily this harsh but typical and time-honored agreement. What’s perverse is the bizarre extent to which the cost of getting there and getting by has also denied her simple justice.</p>
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		<title>The Ignoble Lie: Weekly Standard Style</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Aug 2011 03:33:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>In college a naive but well-intentioned fellow student asked a history professor why alternative theories on the Holocaust weren’t at least presented in classes on the subject. She made it clear she didn’t believe the deniers’ arguments, but didn’t understand how a university could willfully ignore alternative theories (even offensive ones) on a subject if [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In college a naive but well-intentioned fellow student asked a history professor why alternative theories on the Holocaust weren’t at least presented in classes on the subject. She made it clear she didn’t believe the deniers’ arguments, but didn’t understand how a university could willfully ignore alternative theories (even offensive ones) on a subject if they were based on some methodological gathering of evidence. The professor shrugged and answered her directly.  “That’s easy,” he said. “Theories put forth by Holocaust deniers aren’t based on anything remotely reliable. Forgot how offensive they are. They simply don’t deserve academic attention.”</p>
<p>The good prof could have added a few other things, such as how cruel bias and rank antisemitism also lurk behind the &#8220;debate” regarding the Shoah, thus making denial arguments less legitimate still. But what he said was enough on its face. Theories about how Nazi Germany had no established policy on extermination, or that estimates of the murdered are grossly exaggerated- even when adopted by people with no antisemitic bent whatsoever- are based on incredibly faulty “research.”  They fly in the face of mountains of demographic, eye-witness and documentary evidence. They’re just foolish to believe, period.</p>
<p><em>To be abundantly clear: I am not about to draw an exact parallel between Holocaust deniers and perpetuators of flawed research “demonstrating” that women lie about sexual assault frequently, particularly in relation to other crimes. I’m also absolutely not inferring that the perpetuators have anything in common with Nazi sympathizers or antisemitic thinkers.</em></p>
<p>That being said, perpetuating baseless claims predicated on demonstrably flawed research and badly interpreted statistics in ways that perpetuate injustice deserves redress.  The continued victimization of millions of women and men who are sexually assaulted every day, cloaked and devalued by this nonsensical line of opinion also deserves redress.  So it’s time to call out the writers, journalists, attorneys, “activists” and others— whether they have an axe to grind or not— who still cite risibly flawed “research” and inappropriately extrapolated anecdotes to support claims that women lie about being sexually assaulted more than anyone else lies about any other crime. Cathy Young is one such writer.</p>
<p>In <a href="http://www.weeklystandard.com/articles/noble-lie-feminist-style_577309.html?page=1">“The Noble Lie, Feminist Style,”</a> Ms Young, earlier this month in the <a href="http://www.weeklystandard.com/">Weekly Standard</a>, offers a piece that is provocative, but absurdly ill-researched and offensively inaccurate. Her use of readily identifiable bad “evidence” might be quaint if she were arguing an alternative theory on, say, the mating habits of lemurs. But she’s not. She’s making assertions that directly and negatively impact the lives of millions of women hoping against hope for a rational, competent and decent response to being made to suffer one of the ugliest crimes imaginable.</p>
<p>As for why she’s doing so, it seems that she is challenging some aspects of feminism she finds irritating or unsatisfying- apparently that’s what Ms.Young does. That’s fine, but it doesn’t give her license to push on her readers myths and innuendo that amount to nothing—and ultimately cause harm to those affected by her proliferation of nonsense.</p>
<p>As usual, she evokes straw-man “orthodox feminists” who “grudgingly admit” that women sometimes lie about being raped. Really? I am personally acquainted with dozens of feminists, consider myself to be one as well, and am familiar with most of the leaders of the feminist movement in this country where the issue of sexual violence is concerned. I’ve yet to meet a single person in this movement who will resist acknowledging that women and men sometimes lie about being sexually assaulted. It happens— no one disputes that. What educated and informed people do dispute, whether feminists or not, is the idea that women lie about sexual assault any more than anyone else lies about any other crime.</p>
<p>That’s because they don’t.</p>
<p>Young’s statement, “the fact remains that women do lie about rape much more often than the feminist party line allows” is based first on an assumption that there is a “feminist party line” at all (she cites nothing here in support of such a thing). From there she cites three things in support of her position: A misunderstood classification by the FBI, incredibly faulty research by a retired sociologist, and a brief series of anecdotes. The first two are easily debunked (the sociologist’s “research,” in particular, <a href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;source=web&amp;cd=17&amp;ved=0CFMQFjAGOAo&amp;url=http%3A%2F%2Fvaw.sagepub.com%2Fcontent%2F16%2F12%2F1318.refs&amp;rct=j&amp;q=sexual%20assault%20report%20kanin%20critique&amp;ei=l-RVToTiBcrj0QGK7t2kDA&amp;usg=AFQjCNGvUO3Wjr1bHtStQUdC1ARlWjK_3A&amp;sig2=FmbG2dcVX_hQlo3wuYimpQ&amp;cad=rja">here</a>). But serious analysis is not what Ms. Young wants, as it would belie her preconceived notions and agenda.  Her last attempt at making her point (the brief series of examples) perhaps serves to titillate, but says nothing about the reality of sexual violence.</p>
<p>False reports are both horrific and criminal. People who make them should be dealt with harshly unless serious mental illness was at play in making the report. This, despite anything Young’s article will tell you, is exactly what happened in the infamous Duke Lacrosse case. The accused players were actually declared— in an extremely rare move— “innocent” rather than just “not guilty” by the Attorney General of North Carolina. But that same authority never sought to prosecute the woman who made the false claim.  Why? Because, in the opinion of AG Roy Cooper, she was extremely mentally ill, and might actually have <a href="http://articles.cnn.com/2007-04-11/justice/cooper.transcript_1_sexual-assault-durham-county-district-attorney-evidence/4?_s=PM:LAW">believed</a> her own account of events. So lo and behold, the supposedly evil woman that the rape-denial crowd would love to elevate to poster-child for all that “average Joes” have to fear in the complex world of dating and mating is frankly crazy. Her actions in March of 2006, like her life in general, constitute a tragedy, but not a crime. She is a dangerous and deranged person, but not the cold, calculating psychopath that rape-deniers would have the world believe.</p>
<p>I am not suggesting that psychopathic or otherwise unscrupulous women and men do not exist and do not falsify accusations of sexual assault. It does happen. So does the falsification of burglaries and car theft for insurance payouts (at much higher rates, I suspect). Other than murder (where the victim can’t falsify personally) every crime imaginable has it’s fraudulent victims. But to suggest that women— in particular— lie about rape—  in particular— is simply baseless. Being thus, it should not be trumpeted as fact, or an educated suspicion, or a grounded theory, or anything else suggestive of serious consideration. It’s time to speak plainly. Enough is enough.</p>
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